You are my Context

A Note to my Dear Friends:

I found myself sobbing as I wrote a scene in my novel today.  Literally.  Tears were not just welling up in my eyes -- they were running down my cheeks (stage 2 crying).  Then came the knotting up in my chest and the heaving as I was unable to control, to hold back, the emotion (stage 3).  It was a total body reaction to the emotion of the scene.

When I finished the final word, I had to take a breather.  I knew that if the content is truly compelling and if the emotion ends up translating to my potential future readers, they will need a breather after that, too.  The next scene will be brighter.  So I stepped away from the keyboard to put myself in a different place.

I took time to "visit" some friends.

Some have said that the social media is the enemy of the writer -- that the best way to get your novel or screenplay done is to leave the phone off the hook, disconnect the internet, and cancel cable.  I took more of that approach for last year's NaNoWriMo, and I reached my goal -- the completed first draft of my first novel.  It seems to me that I poured more time into writing that than I have with this one; yet, even though I haven't been shunning social media this time around, I've been making my daily word count goals, and I may actually be benefiting from the time I've taken reading friends' blogs, and even checking out a few movie recommendations. 

Today's scene is a case in point.

I knew from my outline that I needed to write about the mysterious flowers my protagonist received on a dreary, rainy Spring day, and how not knowing who had sent them would affect her.  What I didn't know was that a second scene -- at a flower-filled funeral parlor visitation -- would expound on the need for flowers to be rooted to a significant life source if they are to carry any meaning.  I didn't know my protagonist would meet a freshly widowed woman who would dig deep into her soul with a simple musing about her deceased husband's aversion to store-bought flowers.

I didn't know any of that until after I read a friend's blog in which he shared about how he had tried to use flowers to woo his estranged wife back.  As he grappled with how the flowers he sent failed to melt the hardness of her heart, my characters began to speak to me.  They spoke to me throughout the night, and I woke up with this new scene -- a framework in which two hurting women grapple with the meaning of the flowers that surround them.  I'm not sure that I would have ever gone there if I hadn't taken the time to read my friend's blog.

Likewise, conversations on facebook have inspired me as well.  It's all a matter of keeping balance in life.  I think this year's novel just might end up being richer because I'm allowing myself a little more social interaction.  Last year's story was about a very isolated woman, so writing from a place of isolation may have worked for it, but this year I'm thankful for a broader, richer context to foster my creativity.

Even if our conversations don't touch on the subject of my story or the content of any specific scene I write, we are connected.  I don't live or breathe or create in a vacuum.  The quality of my story reflects the quality and texture of the context from which I write...  and since you, my friends, are my context, the story can't help but reflect beauty.

Permission to Write Badly

I know I said I wasn't going to blog during NaNoWriMo, but I feel invigorated. 

Yesterday, I was nowhere near my target word count for the day as of 10:30 pm.  Everything started out so good, and I was running ahead, and then I hit the end of the well-outlined portion and started delving in to parts of the story that were still extremely sketchy in my mind (the second act doldrums, perhaps?) 

So, along with working on several other writing projects simultaneously -- a short film script that is in the early stages of development, one feature film script that's still in the outlining stages, another that I'm typing and doing some minor revisions as I type (my digital copy was destroyed when the hard drive it was on crashed... literally, it crashed to the ground) -- I'm also trying to build a stronger outline before I do too much rambling on this novel.

I panicked, and I must admit I almost gave up and quit.  "This is ridiculous to attempt with so little preparation," I told myself.

Emboldened by wonderful mentor friends, like Rochelle Melander (who I introduced in my last blog), I was equipped to face off against myself in rebuttal.  "This is an exercise," I reminded myself.  "Press on.  It will be worth it."

Part of my approach to NaNoWriMo is to get the words out no matter what.

My friend Rochelle wrote a blog a few days ago called "Busy is No Excuse: Stop Whining and Write" in which she listed four excellent strategies to help busy people push through the excuses and WRITE!  The third strategy she listed has become a biggie for me over the years:

"Lower your standards." Rochelle wrote. "Many writers quit because the words on paper don’t sound as good as they did in their vision."

Rochelle's words joined in perfect harmony with the words of another writing teacher from years ago who often reminded her students that we had "permission to write badly" -- that if we didn't save our perfectionism for the rewrite, we would likely never get to the rewrite.

Putting it yet another way (while basically saying the same thing)...

When I teach creative writing classes for young students, I often compare the process to sculpting. Sometimes I even bringing clay into the classroom for the kids to play with.  A lot can be learned from looking at writing as a form of sculpture.  Here are a few of the points I make:

• If you edit yourself as you go along, you will end up with a lot of pretty little pieces which you can then try to stick together.  Maybe it will work, but the likelihood of pieces "falling off" is high.  
• You may also find yourself grasping for filler to hold it together, and that filler may not match because it comes from a different batch of verbal clay, developed under different conditions. 
• If, however, you allow yourself to write with abandon (giving yourself permission to write badly), the result will be a solid mass of clay (or stone, or whatever you want to think of that rough draft material as).  
• Sure, there will be a lot of superfluous material.  Some of it might be quite embarrassing -- one might even say "bad."  But that stuff can be cut and chiseled away.
• and the shape of the mass can be bent and molded... 
• and the best part of all is the integrity that the whole of the story will have.  It won't be as piecemeal -- and I believe the likelihood of it holding together will be greatly increased. 

Best of all, if you take this "permission to write badly" and "let's spit out a clump of material that can be edited LATER" approach, you are more likely to achieve your vision.  Rochelle said, "Many writers quit because the words on paper don’t sound as good as they did in their vision."

I've often looked to Michelangelo, who is said to have believed that the images he needed to create resided in the stone -- All he needed to do was chip away that which was not the image and the masterpiece would then be revealed.  If you plan the basic structure of your story -- using outlines, index cards, clusters, storyboards, or whatever works best for you -- then you plunge into writing that rough draft roughly, quickly, and without the editor in you scolding you and trying to be super-precise about what will work and what won't, then I believe that your vision will reside in the material of your rough draft in such a way that only waits for you to step back and take your chisel to release it, to free it.

How can you release that which is not yet been put into words, rough as they might be? that which is still trapped within your mind?  Maybe that's why you sometimes see writers banging their heads against the wall???

The most delightful thing about the artwork of children is the unedited energy behind it.  If we want to retain the ability to infuse our work with energetic vision, we need to develop methods and habits that don't restrict the flow of that energy.  I believe the only way to allow that energy to flow freely is to allow at least a little bit of debris to accompany it.  The debris can be cleared later, but energy forced into the story later is not likely to ring true. That's my theory, anyway.

Back to writing now.  Badly.

Reappearing to inform you of my plan to disappear...

The countdown to NaNoWriMo is almost over. Even though I'm still trying to decide what my story will be, I have committed to write a 50,000 word draft of a new novel during the month of November.

Since writing can be such a solitary endeavor, there is something beautiful about the camaraderie of knowing that there are people all over the world "running" this writing marathon along with me.  If you want to track the progress of my emerging novel, NaNoWriMo has created an handy-dandy chart for that purpose.  (Click on the word "chart")

Maybe you're thinking about joining in the marathon.  If you do, please add me as a "Writing Buddy," so I can track you, too.


Since I'm not likely to be back on here much until the month of November is over, I thought I'd post a few resources that should be helpful in answering any questions you may have about NaNoWriMo specifically or marathon writing in general:

NaNoWriMo website: www.nanowrimo.org/





Also, check out my friend Rochelle's brand new book on the subject: Write-A-Thon

Rochelle is an amazing writer and coach.  She promises to continue blogging at her website during the month of November.









Even though I may not be adding on to this blog much during the month of November, I'd love to come back in December and discover that some of the old entries have been read in my absence.  If you do dig back in the archives and find anything your like, be sure to leave a comment. 


Have a blessed November!

The Road Not Traveled (by the Google Cam vehicle, that is)

When I can't afford the trip to do research, I like "driving around" the neighborhoods I'm writing about on google maps.  However, I don't like it if the road ends just when it's getting interesting... it's like those driving video games that don't let you go off-road, into the field, through caves and caverns, and crash through the walls into an occasional kitchen, funeral parlor, or wedding venue...  



When I came to this roadblock, I couldn't help but wish the google maps driver had defiantly barreled through it, snagging a part of the barricade that would continue to drag and flap in front of the camera for the next 2.5 miles, scooping up the occasional road kill specimen and sending it airborne into the picture, causing viewers to cry out: "UFO's in Cleveland!?! Flying Chupacabra???"

[Virtual] Life (and research) would be so much more interesting if google cam drivers weren't intimidated by warning signs and roadblocks.  I mean, if Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves can do this in a clunky old bus...

...can't a google cam driver in a car that maneuvers more easily at least try???  Don't they realize that they are the modern pioneers,  blazing the only trails our cellular devices will allow us to explore?   

Don't tell me none of you ever think the same thing.  Please, don't tell me.

My Lost Birthday Buddy (with A Dramatic Monologue)

Back when we lived in Wyndmere, North Dakota

I know it's not the same as having a twin, but somehow it adds extra cement to the bond when siblings have birthdays in close proximity to each other.  My boys' birthdays are only 11 days apart--that makes the month of May a special time that they share. Amber & I had birthdays just 12 days apart in July. As a kid, I remember her birthday was always the sign that mine was coming soon (and for kids, that is a pretty big deal.) 

Those who have suffered the loss of a loved one know that there are specific times when the ache is intensified, even after years have passed. Amber's birthday is a tough day for me now, but mine isn't the same without her to celebrate it with, either. It helps to pull out the old pictures and remember the good times together.

I've declared the month of July sister appreciation month (at least for myself). Those of you who still have a sister with you in this world, enjoy her! 

We didn't take as many pictures back when I was growing up as my kids do now, but the pictures in my head are still vivid and plentiful.  I thought I'd jot a few random memories down in memory of Amber and in celebration of sisters:

ON SHARING A ROOM:

Even though sharing a room with a sister was a royal pain at times, I am so thankful that we didn't have a big enough house to have our own rooms.  When we lived in Schuler--before Amber came into the family--our three bedrooms were distributed like so: (1) parents' room, (2) kids' room (shared by myself and two brothers), and (3) my dad's office.  Then, there came a day when my brothers (or at least my older brother) decided that I no longer belonged in their room.  They wanted a Boys' Room, so I had to go.  

My dad graciously moved his office to the basement, and I suddenly found myself with a room of my own.  I wasn't used to sleeping alone in a dark room all by myself, and I think it was around that time that my sleep-walking got kind of out of control.  I remember waking up in my parents' bed many a morning and not remembering how I got there.  I guess I just didn't like being alone.  

It was around that time that I decided I needed a sister.  I vaguely remember my mom trying to explain that it wasn't as easy as just wanting a baby.  I may have been too young to understand the concept of fertility, but I was old enough to understand the Public Service Announcements that Canadian television ran at that time promoting adoption.  The ads made it sound pretty easy, and before long there was a crib set up in my bedroom, awaiting my sister.

The day we went to pick up Amber, I remember taking one of my favorite baby dolls--a homemade "sock" doll--and placing it in Amber's crib. This was finally going to be The Girls' Room--PLURAL--just like The Boys' Room that I had been kicked out of was plural, and The Parents' Room that I would sleep-walk to was plural.  I wasn't going to be alone anymore.  It was so exciting!  I wanted to share my room, and I wanted to share my dolls.

There was a waiting room at the adoption agency.  It was nice that they had some toys in that room because we had to wait a LONG time.  I guess my parents had paperwork to finalize, and social workers to talk to.  At first it was just my brothers and me playing with the toys in the waiting room, but eventually, a little girl with dark curly hair and a kind of funny way of walking came in.  I guess she had just recently had braces removed from her legs, and hadn't yet learned that her knees were capable of bending.  She saw the toy that I was playing with and without hesitation, she hobbled over and took it from me.  That's not fair!  Everyone knows the rules--I had it first and I wasn't going to let this rule-breaker get away with it.  I grabbed the toy back, and the little girl started to cry.  My mom intervened, not defending the fact that I had the toy first, but rather by taking the toy from me and just giving it to the little girl.  She then whispered to me something about letting Amber play with the toy because we needed to play nicely so the people could see that we could get along.  This was important, she said.  That is how I met my sister, and that is when I first had second thoughts about whether I wanted a sister.  As soon as we got home, I rushed to my bedroom and took back the rag doll I had put in Amber's crib.  I had changed my mind.

As the years sped by, sharing a room meant that Amber and I were together a lot.  Sure, we fought, just like all siblings do, but I remember a whole lot more playing together.  Amber was funny.  Since she wasn't used to being able to bend her knees, she had developed and interesting way of sitting down on the floor when she wanted to play:  She would run, do a little jump, spin around in a half-circle, flinging her legs straight out in front of her and landing on her seat with a thump.  We had hard wood floors, not carpeting, so the thud would echo every time.  Once she was out of her diapers and without as much padding, we thought she would get hurt doing this, but she was a tough kid.  She had discovered that people found her antics amusing, and she would laugh as she landed.

We moved to the States not too long after adopting Amber.  That was the third move in my life, and yet another followed just a few years later.  Having a sister provided continuity, when I was constantly being uprooted from my friends (or living in fear of the next move.)  It was nice that Amber was younger than me, too, because that gave me an excuse to play dolls even after most of my peers had decided they were too old for such things--I was just doing it for her (wink, wink).  And because Amber was younger, I had a roommate right up until I left for college (where I also had a roommate)--you could say that she prepared me for the fact that I would have to share for most of the rest of my life.

A rare photo-shoot inspired by the movie, Desperately Seeking Susan

ON LIVING APART:

Since we had summer birthdays, even after I left for college, we were able to spend most of our birthdays together.  The first four summers after my early high school graduation, I had summer jobs in North Dakota, close to where the family was living at the time.  Amber was so excited the first time she got to come and spend her birthday with me at my first apartment in Park River, ND.  I don't think she knew how equally excited I was.  It was such a joy to be able to bake a cake for her in my very own kitchen and decorate it with childlike fancy (and animal crackers and candy.)  It was just the two of us that birthday--it was an exercise in pretending to be grown-up.  We decided we wanted to go out for dinner a little late in the day, and we ended up driving from small town to small town in the forsaken middle-of-nowhere looking for a restaurant that was open.  I don't think we ever found one, but we did have cake, so that part was a success.

By the time Amber was expecting her first child, I was living miles away in California.  I was so thrilled about having a niece that I went to an expensive toy store and picked out the best teddy bear they had.  I think it was wearing yellow corduroy overalls.  I couldn't afford it, but then I couldn't afford not to get it--I'd just have to cut back on other things that month.  I'd find a way.  

And Amber loved flowers.  I remember the first time she sent me flowers for my birthday.  The flowers arrived without a card and I thought they were from my husband, but he didn't take credit--in fact, it seemed he might even have been a bit jealous over these flowers from a mystery admirer.  When I figured out they were from Amber, I was so touched.  That's when I realized she had really grown up.  It may seem like a little thing--ordering flowers--but the fact that she had remembered my birthday and taken the initiative to make the day special for me caused me to see her in a new light.  She was doing what I had done with the animal cracker cake in my little apartment in Park River.  She was asserting her own independent creativity to celebrate this bond we had--without a mommy there to remind her or help her.  She wasn't just another signature on the family card.  And after that first time, came many more bouquets in recognition of birthdays and babies and even an occasional "just because."

ON SAYING "GOOD BYE"

We had a preview of things to come when Amber was eight years old.  She got sick, and the doctors who examined her suspected leukemia.  She would have to come back for more tests.  My parents  immediately put her on our church's prayer chain and a lot of people were praying for her.  When she went back to the doctor, we were told that there must have been some mistake with the earlier tests.  There was no sign of leukemia.  Amber was fine.  She had a ninth birthday, and a tenth--a couple more decades of birthdays.

This painting was made from a school picture of Amber at the age when she exhibited blood platelet symptoms that made the doctors suspect leukemia in Viroqua, WI

After the birth of her first child, there were more blood platelet issues.  Amber was not fine.  She was eventually diagnosed with Fanconi Anemia, a genetic disease that typically leads to bone marrow failure, leukemia, and cancer.  It is tragically common for Fanconi Anemia patients to get leukemia and die of bone marrow failure by the age of eight--the age when the doctors had first suspected leukemia.  Amber lived another 20 years.  I do count those years a miracle, but even with such a blessing, it was almost unbearably hard to say goodbye.  (I've touched on that in a previous blog.) 

I no longer have my birthday buddy.  That's a change that is hard to get used to.  After the passing of Amber's first birthday "away from us," I wrote a monologue that was inspired by this struggle of getting through significant days without the people who made the days significant in the first place.  I'm going to share that monologue for the very first time online here.  I'm probably too close to this to know if it's of any dramatic value, and not just self-indulgent therapy.  Maybe I'll do something more with it one of these days, but for now, it is what it is...

 

“AUGUST 15”

A monologue by Rebekah Score

SARAH

I appreciate you wanting to help, but there’s really nothing you can do, nothing to say. 

Could you, could you just sit there?

And don’t say anything.  Don’t look at me, either. 

      (beat)

It’s August 15. 

Her birthday.  August 15, and I can’t even remember her face.

I called in sick today.  Sick.  No one else knows... why I...

You know what I want? 

I want to rip open my chest and lay on the earth.  I’m so numb there’d be no pain, just my blood pouring into the ground.  I’d stretch and grasp till the dirt and plants became part of me. 

Still I’d be empty. 

I just want to hold her.  I know she’s not in the ground, not in that cold, cold casket. 

Your churchy explanations don’t help.  You don’t know where she is anymore than I do. 

I’ve heard people say... that when some one they loved – passes – after such a long battle with sickness, they look into the face and see peace and they feel relieved.

Relieved. 

I looked.  I looked and you know what I saw?

Nothing.  Nothing at all.  It was like I was standing in that room with a total stranger.  The nurses couldn’t see it.  Maybe that’s why they hadn’t warned me.  She really was... gone. 

Oh, sure, they said, “She’s gone;” but that’s just what they’re supposed to say.  It’s just a line.  When I walked in that room, I still expected to see my little sister.  I said, “This is all a joke, right?  Come on, Heather, sit up!  Open your eyes.  I know you hear me—you have to hear me!  Can’t you give me some sign?”

I didn’t say that to— to her. 

Instead, I focused on the little molecules of dust dancing in the air. 

I hated her—that corpse—nothing but a vicious actress standing in for my sister—

I hurried out into the hall.  Had to find her. 

I had felt a strange sensation when I passed by the children’s ward on the way to her room.  Maybe she had been there, but she wasn’t anymore.

August 15 is the loneliest day – We don’t call each other – the family.  It’s, it’s like no one knows what to say.  I want to say... 

-to say, “It’s August 15, Mom? Dad?  Heather would have been 25 today.”  I want to say that, and have them remind me of all the good times.  Then maybe I’d see her face.

Maybe they don’t remember either.  Maybe that’s why they’d rather just act like it was another day.

August 15^th. 

I feel like I’m standing on the outside of everything that’s real.

BLACKOUT

 

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Carmageddon, Water Falling from the Sky, and the Shopping Habits of Stars

For a place with such a laid-back reputation, there sure are a lot of big deals made over small stuff in L.A.  Shouldn’t that be expected, though?  When you concentrate so many drama-majors in such a small area, is it any surprise that drama rules? 

Almost every newbie to L.A. stands frozen, jaw dropped at least momentarily the first time they see the news coverage about a little water falling from the sky and wetting the concrete of the L.A. River -- “STORM WATCH 2011!!!  Quick!  Find!!  Your!!!  Umbrella!!!!  Before it’s TOO LATE!!!!!  You might want to rethink your weekend plans because the roads will be... [duh, duh, duh...] damp.” 

Now we have CARMAGEDDON!!!!!  It’s the end of life as we know it in the Southland, and because WE are the center of everything, the devastation could be far-reaching.  I’ve heard reports on how the economies of the entire world will be upset by this temporary glitch in the traffic grid so close to LAX (Los Angeles International Airport).

Some have compared the hoopla over this weekend’s closure of a small segment of the 405 Freeway to the Y2K scare.  I think it’s even bigger than Y2K--because Y2K belonged to the entire world, but this--this is our own personal disaster--and if it’s all about us, it’s gotta be BIG!!! 

Friends from the Midwest often ask me, “How can you stand it?”  Well, you know what?  I actually find it charming.  It’s like that silly friend in junior high who never quite got the jokes, but was a hoot to have around just for the entertainment value of her clueless gaze and delayed reactions.  (Yep, that was me, and I even fell for that line about how “they’re really not laughing at you, they’re laughing with you.”)  So, LA-LA Land is home, and I finally fit in.  My dramatic exaggerations don’t seem so out of place.  And even if it looks like we’re all taking ourselves way too seriously here, we do get the irony of it all... eventually.


P.S.  Don't tell any of the locals that the traffic isn't really that bad out there... until Sunday night....  The media scare tactics worked, the gullible are boarded up in their apartments, and the streets are wide open for the daring, the brave, the heroic, the [duh, duh, duh...] the unemployed actor who just realized he's out of Pop Tarts and decided to brave the scary streets of L.A. to restock before tonight's Carmageddon Staycation Marathon.  

 

Time Travel & Linear Intent

 

Sometimes the best way to learn something new about yourself is by traveling backward in time to face a truth you refused to face at the time it was current.

My work is all about digging in the past now, as I’ve been hired to write the script for a biographical feature film.  Structure and meaning rise out of the research, out of the excavation--pieces of this amazing man’s past connect to his present and the path he is on makes more sense when it is unified in “the big picture.”   

People understand such indulgence in the past for a project such as this--a grand life is different from an ordinary life--the origins matter.  In my own life, however, I’m met with resistance when I dig.  People want everything to be in a neat, tidy line.  The past is a distant echo, not worth listening to. 

Last year I wrote a blog entitled “Being Lovely” in which I noted the importance of living in the present as opposed to being consumed by yearning for something in the future--something we have yet to become.  That wasn’t such a novel idea--living in the present is a pretty popular notion... presently.  Like so many sound bytes, however, “Living in the present” is not as simple as it may sound. 

“I need to remember that it's not about becoming, but rather about being. It is through being that we become...” I wrote...

but that wasn’t the whole story.  I went on to consider that

“...being comes from clearly seeing ‘whatever is true.’” 

Seeing.  That is important.  Just like listening.  Sometimes that distant echo alerts us to something we need to take a closer look at.

While it is true that “living in the past” can rob us of fullness in the present, ignoring that distant echo can also rob us of fullness when it comes to the big picture--it can rob us of integrity, which I believe is essential to authentic living. 

When most people think of integrity, the primary definition that comes to mind is the idea of high moral standards or professional ethics.  That is only the outer exhibition of the heart of integrity.  Moral and ethical behaviors are meaningless, and likely to falter, if they don’t spring from within.  In my opinion, definition two and definition three of the word integrity are the things we need to strive for:

2. the state of being complete or undivided

3. the state of being sound or undamaged
      (Encarta World English Dictionary)

Our world is so full of fragmentation.  We have our professional lives and our personal lives, our public persona and our private persona, and then we also have the linear segments that we sort into tidy little containers.  My old photos are in albums or boxes according to their place in time.  Digital photos are time-stamped so as to be filed away where they belong.  When this system gets mixed up, it’s a problem to be fixed.  In this mad-dash forward--always forward--we are prone to forget where we come from, but that’s okay, we tell one another.  The past is gone.  Let it be.

Does anyone else ever stop to think that we might have it all wrong?  I posed this question on my facebook a while back:

“Do you think life is intended to be linear?” 

Only four people replied.  I loved my brother’s reply: [which somehow disappeared before I had a chance to answer--he may have decided to delete it, but fortunately, I had multiple tabs open, and was able to find one that still had his reply intact]

“I.e., linear intent + gravity -> parabolic course.  Replace gravity with drama, or confuse the two, as often happens, for hyperbolic results.” 

I won’t even pretend to understand the science behind his obvious humor, but I will say that this comment may have come closer than some of the others to the heart of what I was grappling with when I posted the question.  I’m not nearly as smart as my brother, but I am a dictionary geek.  I love to look up words, even when I think I know what they mean, because I always seem to discover nuances and connections that I might not have otherwise recognized.  (And with the advance of technology, looking up things online presents incredibly enticing bunny-trails much to the satisfaction of the A.D.D. in me.)

Parabolic course.  Parabolic.  Google is like Calgon... Google, take me away....  I meet an educator named “Mr. Ree” and delight in his lesson plan on Parabolic Curves.  I stumble upon an article written by a physicist that references the movie, Source Code.  Oops.  Spoiler alert.  I haven’t seen the movie yet, so I can’t read on until I do so.  It’s not on Netflix Instant View yet, but it is still showing on the big screen at the cheap theatre down the road (and probably not for much longer because it’s down to one 9:25pm showing a day).  I manage to make it to the movie just a couple days before it closes, then head home and read the article. 

It’s all connected.  One of my favorite concepts in science fiction has always been time-travel or time-manipulation.  This journey through research for my work, self-analysis for my psychological well-being, picking friends’ brains with seemingly random questions, searching words that jump out at me.... it’s all connected in a beautiful web that strengthens me and makes me feel more sound, more complete... it may sound like a very strange process, but I find it very healing.

When I think of the third definition of integrity, “being... undamaged,” I am reminded that I have been damaged.  I think we all have at one point or another--life does that.  More word study, more word twisting...  Damaged.  Undamaged.  Are they opposites?  Or are they more like different states of the same thing?  “Un” can mean an opposite state of being--the negative of the root word, but it can also refer to a process--a reversal of an action or a state of being.  One could look at the word “undamaged” and say that you either are or you’re not--undamaged, that is.  But what if we took the word “damage” as a verb instead of a static state of being and applied that prefix in its active capacity... could not “undamaging” be looked at as a process--a reversal (a redemptive act) rather than the state prior to damage? 

So, I saw the movie, Source Code.  I won’t get into the details of the plot, but basically it is about going back (after some damage has already been done), not to undo that damage, but to get information that will help prevent future damage from being done.  The question of whether something can be “undamaged” or whether preventing future damage is the best we can do, is central to the story.  Either way, one must go back to the source--the root of the state of being, the impetus of the current course.  This message resonates with me.  When you’re on a track, speeding along, and braking is not an option, ignoring the past can be deadly.

Long story short, THAT is why I am drawn to examine my past--not so that I can dwell in it, but rather out of concern about averting accidents on the track ahead, and so that I can learn the true meaning of integrity--by being an integrated person.  It seems to me that a complete life encompasses all at once--it's not cut up into autonomous segments, but rather the past is infinitely connected to the present and the future and not just in a brick-upon-brick manner, but more like a web in which you must go back and forth and compare and contrast and connect in order to make sense of it all.  And if one does believe in a God who is outside of time and space, in whose image we are created, that makes the interconnectedness of the entirety of our lives even more necessary to learning to see things more like God does.  

Why is it so much easier to identify patterns in the lives of others than in our own lives?  Could it be because we naturally stand back and look at the big picture when it comes to the life of an other?  Getting such perspective on self requires a level of intent that may feel awkward at first--even self-indulgent, but ultimately, it frees a person to be more truthful, more generous, and to exude integrity.  That's what I want.